How Do I Get My Girlfriend Back And Get That 2nd Chance?
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Your Mandate To Love is focused on helping you find the woman you want in your life. However, sometimes in life we face situations where we think we have already found that woman only to see the relationship fail. So how do I get my girlfriend back and get that 2nd chance you might say?
Most of us have been through it, some of us many times. Its painful. It hurts. You feel like your whole world is breaking down around you. Your best friend all of a sudden isn’t there anymore, or even more painfully, wants to remain “good friends”.
Its also the time to not act – or more to the point not to react to the situation.
That is of course if you really want your ‘how do I get my girlfriend back’ mantra to actually work for you.
It takes incredible strength, discipline and a steely resolve to overcome those urges to pick up the phone, text, email, send flowers or even knock on the door. I have done all of the above to no avail.
Do not do any of these things!
If you try to do these things, or you ‘hang around’ or try to hang out where your girlfriend does, you will lose further credibility….and any hope of getting her back.
You need to be strong, and if there is any chance of getting your girlfriend back, you need to have a plan or at least some sort of strategy.
Well that is all very well you might say, but how do I get my girlfriend back you might ask?
Let me pose this question back to you; “Are you totally sure you do want her back, or are you wanting to fill the void and the loneliness that is a result of not having your ex girlfriend back?”
It would be very easy for me to give you a list of how and what to do to get your girlfriend back. But then isn’t that what everyone tells you?
I’m going to do something totally different here – something I think might help you to come to terms with what has happened, and help you to start the process of moving on in your life. This moving on of course can mean either with… or without her.
How do I get my girlfriend back questions to consider:
- Do I want her back or am I lonely and merely want someone else?
- Why did we break up – what were the reasons?
- If I know what those reasons were, or at least some of them, do I have the want and the capacity to change my behavior or attitudes?
- In other words, what has to change if we are to be together?
- Are the changes something that need to take place for both of us, or is this merely about me?
- What did I love about the relationship?
- What didn’t I like about the relationship?
- Does she really want me for who I am, or does she want me to change to be who she wants me to be?
- Was the relationship supportive?
- Were my needs being met?
- Were her concerns about me valid or reasonable and do i really understand what they were?
- Did she respect me and the relationship?
- What is my ‘gut’ or inner self telling me about this?
- How do I get my girlfriend back if she doesn’t want me or us?
- Was I prepared to talk about our issues?
- Did I listen to her?
- What would I change if I did get here back?
- Is she, or at least was she really into me and us?
- Can I get a 2nd chance?
Of course there are many more questions to ask yourself. But what I hope is that you start looking inwards and start to get reflective and introspective of the bigger picture here.
You really do need to make necessary connections here if you are to succeed in getting her back and getting that 2nd chance. In fact, regardless of whether she wants you back or not, you still need to go through this process to enable yourself to work through your stuff and to ensure you get what it is you need to change to be a better man and a better partner.
“How do I get my girlfriend back and get that 2nd chance then?” You need to open to new possibilities and new levels of awareness and be open and ready for change. Your Mandate To Love is dependent on you making these changes and connections in your life.
